I would like to share my situation with you all. I am open to your thoughts and comments if you would like to share.
I didn’t have the kind of parents that offered good advice about life. My mom thought she was the best mom when in reality she was the worst. She was self-absorbed and if my dad wasn’t focused on her and her only, she created chaos and drama. I found out that she had gotten pregnant with me while she was in her senior year of high school. And not a day went by that she didn’t tell me that she hated me and I ruined her life. As I got older, my dad and one of his sisters always made excuses for her behavior and expected me to feel sorry for her because of her terrible childhood. And today she is 75 and can’t take of herself partly because she feels like she is entitled to having everyone wait on her hand and foot. And she feels like she deserves to be cared for as my dad cared for her until he died. I had no communication with her until just recently. I had her at my home for Christmas and I did not enjoy the time with her. Even though there isn’t anything wrong with her physically, she refuses to do anything on her own. She expects you to wait by her side, and be devoted to her hundred percent of the time. I am not that person. I raised three children all by myself and two years ago my last adult child moved out, and I cared for 4 elderly people until they passed, and now it’s my time. My family has had negative comments about me until now. And now all of a sudden through their manipulation, and control they expect me to give up my freedom and put aside all the terrible memories I have about her for her care. Well its time for me to do for just me. And she needs to take her advice she once gave to me. My first husband was abusive and I showed up at her house and she told me in the morning I would have to go home and live with the choices I made. She was not obligated to help me. I have 3 brothers, why can’t one of them take her in?
I have lived my life up until now always taking care of the needs of others, always putting others before me. And it was not beneficial for my well-being. I feel like I have much to do to make up for lost and wasted time towards living my life with purpose. And I feel angry because I didnt get to finish goals that were important to me, and got stuck with the goals of my husband and inlaws in which I wasn’t compensated for and was not thanked. Like cleaning up the family house of hoarders for example so the house could be put on the market. The house sold in three days and earned beyond what it was purchased for. All the family members received a check, even though they did nothing. It took me a total of 4 years to clean it up, and I had to drop my last two classes I needed for my degree, because it was too much traveling from the new house and fixing it up to driving to my husbands family house to do the finishing touches getting it ready to sale. And not even getting thanked was devastating and still hard to swallow. I am left with a lot of anger and I realize I have some issues I need to work on in order to move forward in my life.
I will be producing articles about topics that are not about yoga, but are topics that should be explored and essential in ones well-being.
I am hoping that this information is helpful and opens up an awareness to all of you. As human beings we are complex and have layer upon layer of structures and systems. The more we try to understand and learn about how we function and why we behave the way we do. It gives us some control of our lives. Ultimately, I would like to be able to choose a life where I struggle no more, and one of bliss.
Where do I begin? Well I am not one to unload my crap of imperfection, this is a first and I tell you I weigh a ton lighter. But I have heard a lot about how important it is to love yourself. And I think exploring this topic about self love, what is it all about, and how does one know if they in fact love themselves and if they don’t, how would one go about doing this? What behavior or issues indicate what is going on. How can we fix this on our own?
Well how many times have you heard that in order to love someone else you must first love yourself?
Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us. We begin to accept our weaknesses as well as our strengths. and don’t feel the need to explain our short-comings. We are more centered in our life purposes and values, and expect living fulfillment through our own efforts.
7 Step Prescription for Self Love
1. Become mindful. People who have self-love know what they want, think, feel and act on this knowledge, rather than what others want for them.
2. Act on what you need rather than what you want. Stay focused on what you need to stay strong and moving forward in your life.
3. Practice good self-care. You’ll love yourself more when you take care of your basic needs.
4. Set Boudaries. Say no to those things that harm you physically or mentally.
5. Protect yourself. Bring only the right people in your life.
6. Forgive yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself.
7. Live intentionally. Live with purpose and design
It is important to be aware of what is self-loving behavior.
If you can start to do this, you will begin to get a sense of what loving yourself means. Here are some examples:
Start going to therapy because you are unhappy.
Finally going to a doctor for a physical exam.
Beginning an exercise program.
Starting a new class or playing a new instrument.
Confronting someone who has hurt you emotionally.
Realizing that feeling your own pain is a major step in healing.
Beginning a recovery program for substance abuse or overeating.
Your auras can tell a lot about you, from your personality to your innermost emotions and conflicts, your thoughts, emotions, actions, and even your dietary choices can impact your aura. When you feel like you are having a really great day, the energy around you is shining brightly. The beauty that comes from within you comes from your aura.
The aura is known by another name in science, the electromagnetic field. In scientific research, we found that the aura is an electromagnetic field of energy that extends all around our body for about 3 to 5 feet (in an average healthy body) and appears to be depleted in cases of an unhealthy person.
The aura is made up of seven levels also called layers or auric bodies, which correspond to the seven chakras of the body. The physical level which requires comfort. pleasure and health. The etheric level where there is a need for self-acceptance, and self-love. The vital level where understanding situations in a clear linear rational way are important. The astral level there is a need for loving interaction with friends and family. The lower mental level there is a need to speak and follow the truth, alignment with the Divine will is required. The higher mental level there is a need for Divine Love and spiritual ecstasy. The Spiritual (intuitive) level there is a need for connection to the Divine mind and to understand the greater universal pattern. Each level has its own frequency, but it also affects and influences other levels around it.
Learning to see someone’s aura would be a great benefit because you would be able to see the truth about a person and they could not manipulate you into believing otherwise. And you would be able to detect health issues before physical symptoms occur.
Pink auras: Pink Aura people are loving and giving. They love to be around close friends and family. They love to host family events and are very generous of their time. They have high regard for their health and look after their bodies with a good diet, nutrition, and exercise. They are very romantic and once they find their soulmate they will be faithful and loving. They are natural healers, highly sensitive to the needs of others, and have strong physic abilities. They have very creative ideas and strong imaginations. They make great writers of novels, and poetry and songwriters. They always strive to make the world a better place and make personal sacrifices in pursuit of this idea. Pink people are strong-willed and highly disciplined. They have strong values and morals and seldom deviate from them, because of their honesty and likable nature. They make excellent employers because of their sense of fairness.
Red Aura: Red represents functionality of the heart, circulation and the physical body. Viewed in a positive light it can indicate a healthy ego, but on the negative side, it could imply anger, anxiety and unforgiving nature. Red Aura people get bold quickly. their mantra is that they will try anything once, they often find themselves in hot water, quick to anger and lose their temper over the slightest thing. But they are very generous with their time when called upon for help. They are strong in body and in mind and don’t succumb to mental or physical illness easily. They like to be physical and excel in sports. They get bored quickly and leave lots of unfinished ventures. If they can stick to a project they will have remarkable success and can become very wealthy. Red Aura people are very direct and to the point. They aren’t afraid to make their point of view heard. They do not normally have hidden agendas and what you see is what you get.
Yellow Auras: Yellow is associated with the spleen and life energy. Yellow Aura people are very intelligent. They tend to excel in careers that involve teaching and they make excellent inventors and scientists. They have a tendency to work hard and tend to be workaholics. They are prone to be stressed out and depressed. They are brilliant communicators and display their skills on a one to one basis. They are confident in large crowds. They inspire others and have good observation skills. They can read people easily and they are unconventional thinkers. They are critical of themselves and others.
Orange Aura: Orange refers to the reproductive organs and emotions. Positively it shows energy, stamina, creativity, adventurous, and an outgoing social nature. On the negative side, it can speak to current stress related to appetite and addictions. Orange aura people love to be in the company of others. They don’t mind being the center of attention or just another face in the crowd. They want to please others and are often the best gift givers. They are good-hearted, kind, and honest. They are intuned to others and can often sense pain and joy. Orange Aura people can be very charming and have the ability to make everyone feel at ease in their company. But they can be hot-headed and quick to lose their temper but they are also quick to forgive and do not hold grudges. They are confident of the impression they make on others and can use this to their advantage. They tend to lead very successful and happy lives but on the downside, they tend to be impatient.
Green Aura: Green is related to the heart and lungs. Green symbolizes growth and balance. It represents the love of humans, animals, and nature. A dark green reveals jealousy low self-esteem, insecure and resentment. Green Aura people are highly creative and very hard workers. They strive for perfection in everything that they do. They have a very determined and down to earth nature. They will not let unrealistic dreams color their world. Their creative world takes a form such as gardening, cooking and home decorating. They have a fine eye for beauty, and they will ensure their appearance and home is both practical and beautiful. Green Aura people tend to be very popular people, they are respected and make for very successful business people that create much wealth and prosperity for themselves. They like security and balance in their lives. And if they make plans they are very well thought out. Close friends are treated to the generosity, loyalty and practical advice. They choose their friends carefully and tend to be very health conscious, and assure their diet is very nutritious.
Blue Aura: Blue is connected to the throat and thyroid gland. Positive associations are affection, love for nature, intuition, and sensitivity. Dark shades of blue indicate fear of failure, self-expression or mastering the truth. Blue Aura people are rare. They have strong personalities and tend to be master communicators. They make for excellent writers, poets and politicians. Blue Aura people are highly intelligent and very intuitive. Their heart and heart are balanced in making difficult decisions. Blue Aura people are great organizers and can motivate others. They are peacemakers and can calmly smooth out situations. The downside is they take on too much and become workaholics, and they neglect their personal relationships.
Purple Aura: Purple is related to the crown, pineal gland and, nervous system. Purple Aura people are highly physic and attuned to the emotions and moods of others. They are very sensitive and seen as mysterious and secretive. They tend to be very interesting and knowledgable. They do not have a wide circle of friends, but the friends they do have are held close and respected, admired and loved. They tend to be unlucky at love, but once they find their soulmate, they are committed for life. They connect well with animals and nature. They are attuned to animals and can sense their emotions and feelings. They tend to take in strays.
Gold Auras: Gold indicates enlightenment and divine protection. A person with a gold aura is being guided by his or her highest good. Gold Aura people are lovers of beauty and have a very artistic flair. They appreciate the finer things in life. They love to entertain and prefer the company of many. They love to be the center of attention. They tend to be very attractive and love to attract attention. They have many friends and are generous. great listeners and can make anyone feel comfortable. They hate to be criticized and can’t stand for their flaws to be exposed. They like to throw impressive social events whether or not their budget allows for it.
Silver Auras: Silver is the color of spiritual and physical abundance. Silver Aura people are extremely gifted. They are bestowed with sensitivity, intuitiveness, physic abilities. and practicality. They make great teachers, mentors, and councilors. Their high intelligence allows them to make decisions quickly. They choose their friends carefully. They are blessed in looks, personality and talent. Success seems to come easily.
Black Auras: Black draws or pulls energy and transforms it. Black Aura people indicates hatred, negativity, major illness, depression. This color is always a bad sign.
The key to seeing auras is having relaxed, unfocused eyes. Plus the use of peripheral vision which is also unfocused. By letting the eyes relax a little, the aura energy can appear. Practice on yourself. Sit in a dimly lit room and relax. Take a couple of breaths. Set in your mind the goal of seeing your own aura and focus on that goal. It’s important that you believe this is something that you can do. Extend your hand in front of you and spread your fingers apart. Focus on the space between your fingers and you should see a haze, smog or fog outline around them. After several tries, you may begin to see color. With continued training, the aura will get more clear and easier to see.
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